I think the number one question that I am faced with is:
"Is it hard to give the baby up?"
This is indeed a very natural question and I think for me it is very simple to answer but I do not think it is so simple for people to understand. I think all people are different so the feelings around this may be very different for each person.
For me, NO it is not hard because I am not 'giving up' a baby. I am carrying a baby for someone else, it is not mine to keep and it has parents and there fore it is not being 'given up'. I really think that it is little mind sets like this that makes it much easier.
I also can not even tell you the joy that is felt in knowing that you have helped another grow their family. For me it is amazing ... every little thing that I cherished in my own pregnancy I am 'standing in' for someone else. I am honored to be chosen as this stand in and feel that I have a duty to do a good job and to share even the little things with the intending parents so that they too can participate in this wonderful experience. So for me, every step of the way ... every movement, every twinge, every heartbeat ... I need to find a way to pass that along to this child's parents.
What do you think? Does that make any sense?
Fellow Surrogates ... I would love to hear from you.
Do you have other questions? I would love to share my thoughts and hear yours!
A magical day to you!
Peace, love and kindness,